DAVD JOHN DALLING ( 1939 -2020 ) – WAKE ON FRYDAY 14th AUGUST 2020.
David Dalling, Head Boy of PBHS in 1957 died in Somerset West on 1st August 2020. Ed Meyer and Peter Eedes were requested by his family to contribute to his Wake memorial service with our memories of David’s school days at Boy’s High. Peter said they had much in common, as they both started as day boys in 1953. In 1957 both were wings in the First XV, Peter recalling that they played outside a very determined centre Eddie Barlow, who literally kept them on their toes. The very successful team that year was captained by the legendary Buddy Hinds and lost only one match all season. Both had leadership roles in the school that year, David as Head boy and Peter as Sergeant Major of the Cadet Corp.
Ed recalled that both David and Peter had good singing voices and had principal roles in the Gilbert and Sullivan operetta “Pirates of Penzance”. David also took the part of Macbeth in the school production of the Shakespeare play, showing his dramatic & acting skills, which stood him in good stead later in his political career. Peter and David’s friendship developed after they both retired to the Western Cape, Peter from his role in the Educational field in Pretoria and David from a varied and very active role politics in Parliament.
As Head Boy, David was responsible for organising the 1957 Matric Group Reunions for 40 Years On (1997), then 50 years On (2007) and more recently in 2017 our 60 years On Reunion. For this ‘final’ reunion we had 38 of the 138 matrics in our class of 1957! Ed and Peter worked closely with some other classmates like Ian Banyard, Jack Klaff, Buddy Hinds and Ray Liebman to ensure these Reunions were really memorable events. They were always held at our special ‘School on the Hill’ in Pretoria, with the help on the Old Boy’s Association. Ed recalled at the wake for David, one of the most moving and poignant experiences for both of them at that last 2017 Reunion, was the Boy’s High tradition of the ‘Last Post’, played by the lone bugler from one
of the turrets of the magnificent School building every Friday.
Ed Meyer (1957)
Once a stormy petrel of South African politics and a senior member of a string of political parties, David Dalling has finally gone to his rest.
He gamely battled ill health for years and died in hospital in Somerset West, aged 80, on Saturday morning.
He played notable roles in two shifts in South African politics, one far more relevant to us today than the other.
To take the latter, as a member of a “reformist” ginger group, fighting from within, Dave helped put the reactionary United Party official opposition out of its dormant misery in the blighted 1970s when apartheid was Boss in more ways than one in South Africa.
This paternalistic party wrote itself out of history with its call for “white leadership with justice”, an unbelievable snub to the majority expecting elementary justice after World War II had seen arch-racist Hitler vanquished. The UP, as government under General Smuts, had at least engaged in that war on the right moral side.
Weakening over the years and fearful of black majority rule, in time the UP just faded away, aptly at a winding-up conference on an ice rink in 1977. This was just as the (white) Nationalists reached the zenith of their power.
The UP reformist group, led by the late Harry Schwarz, had left the party and later managed to link up with principled liberals in a truly progressive party. But it proved to be one of permanent opposition that kept on changing its names, finally becoming the Democratic Alliance of today.
Dave’s inherent liberalism and respect for human dignity, rooted deep in his school days, could come into full play in this new political company. For too long he had endured the stifling atmosphere in the UP. His friends, including myself, felt he should have made the jump much earlier.
Dave’s life journey took him into ever more liberal directions, unlike so many others as they grow older and more conservative.
Dave, too, had more party moves up his sleeve, which in fact saw him leapfrogging over the DA to the ANC.
In 1992 he led a group of five DA (then called Democratic Party) MPs across the floor of Parliament to the ANC. This move strengthened the non-racial hand of Nelson Mandela’s ANC, as it prepared to take over South Africa in an atmosphere of unprecedented and justified hope. Dave’s move is a pointer to us today of the need for more, not less, inclusive governance under Cyril Ramaphosa’s “listening” leadership.
Crossing the floor, the five sat at first as “ANC independents” in 1992, then, with the 1994 democratic general election won by Mandela, they became official ANC MPs. Soon (see picture) Dave found himself sitting as a party whip behind two of the most famous world figures, Queen Elizabeth II, on her 1995 state visit, and Nelson Mandela in a special sitting of Parliament. Dave’s relations with Madiba were always most cordial, and he gave the one-term statesman his every support, for instance in helping to arrange occasions for the President to speak and fundraise.
In 1994 Dave had arrived, as indeed our democracy had, at last and against the odds.
He had played a valuable role in constitutional negotiations at Kempton Park and elsewhere and — having been a member of various parties — was always a useful guide on realignment of parties, and also on parliamentary procedure.
He later became disillusioned with some aspects of the ANC’s showing, including its wobbly position on HIV/Aids, and also the corruption and greed already beginning to become apparent in the ruling party. He left Parliament in 1999 and was highly critical after that over the way felonies in the ruling party multiplied, especially in the Zuma era.
As an MP and whip, Dave was a senior member of constitutional, foreign affairs, justice and other parliamentary committees, visiting numbers of foreign countries. He wrote entertaining parliamentary sketches and international affairs columns for newspapers. When he had left the ANC, he joined the new breakaway party Cope and later assisted Patricia de Lille’s Independent Democrats, neither of which made real headway. As a sideline in retirement, he ran a tour guide company, Diplomatic Destinations.
As a boy, Dave had excelled in his education at prestigious Pretoria Boys’ High and was head boy in 1957. Fast of foot, he played interprovincial rugby, but a snapped hamstring ended his ambitions of being a full-fledged Blue Bulls player. He had become an attorney after being at Wits University. As a UP member, in 1967 he became a Joburg city councillor, and later served in provincial and finally national legislatures. In 1974 he was elected UP MP for Sandton, before democracy and the party list system arrived.
He added verve and colour to our political life, and his inherent bravery shone through. His courage in debate was legendary, for example in 1987 countering President PW Botha’s tactic of having a special commission headed by a judge prepare the ground for action against First National Bank for allegedly funding “release Mandela” adverts in newspapers. Dave stood up in Parliament alleging that the judge in question was conflicted since he had had his bank account closed twice, yet regarded suitable by Botha to investigate the same bank. That brought the wrath of the Nationalist-dominated Parliament down on Dave, who was severely censured, but rose in the respect of those who admired Mandela.
Courageous moments like that did not come easily in those days.
Dave was always a strong supporter of a free press, even though his strictures of certain English-language papers for playing Pretoria’s game cost him, since some would ignore his existence and never quoted him for years. He started and nurtured the Stellenbosch Development Trust that did much useful welfare and other work among the poor. He was on the board of Rand Water and the council of the Cape Peninsula University of Technology (CPUT).
His formal CV sounds less eventful than the exploits that put Dave into lifelong conflict with authority, and at times welcome diversion in debate. When Winnie Mandela commandeered an oversize room for herself and her staff when the democratic Parliament first met in 1994, it was Dave’s unhappy task, as a whip, to remove her. His mission – which other whips were singularly unkeen to undertake with the Mother of the Nation – failed abysmally. As he walked into the massive office with her at the other end, she called out:
“If it’s about this office, the answer is no. But how are you today, Dave?”
Dave was a man of true courtesy and consideration for the dignity of others, for instance – in the apartheid days – seeing Alexandra Township adjacent to his seat of Sandton as equally his area of responsibility though no blacks had the vote then. When the recently deceased Andrew Mlangeni of Rivonia trial fame seemed a bit overlooked for high office in the first Parliament in our democracy, Dave would invite this modest man who described himself as a “backroom boy” in the struggle, to lunch to chat as a friend. Occasionally, I would join them in the parliamentary dining room. Now both have passed, within about a week.
Dave’s loyalty to friends was legendary, his memory for birthdays embarrassing when his gifts arrived like clockwork. He could be totally trusted with confidences, as was the case when I leaked to him details of a secret deal whereby the Botha government sought to get the media to support a confidential set of guidelines in reporting “terrorism”, and in return promising to exempt them from the provisions of the then state of emergency. This would have left the “alternative newspapers” at the mercy of draconian emergency regulations. The media refused, and the initiative collapsed, but only after Dave had caused a Parliamentary sensation. And he duly protected his source.
He had his share of fierce disputes and persistent detractors, with some true-blue liberals critical of his party-hopping. But he had an impact on public life for the better; and could usually rise with a chuckle above brickbats thrown at him. He lived modestly and was a good and loyal friend to the end, and I salute his memory.
He leaves his gifted artist wife, Katharine Ambrose, his lawyer brother Andrew, and four adult children from previous marriages: Andrew, Jonathan, Matthew and Lara. DM
Source: https://www.dailymaverick.co.za/article/2020-08-04-david-john-dalling-1939-2020/
By Tony Heard . 4 August 2020
David Dalling bequeathed his entire library to Pretoria Boys High School.
